in short:
dating 7 months
don't like him anymore
still wanna be friends, really
i like someone else
i'm afraid he's too attached
i've been trying to gather the courage to do it, and i know it's worse too continue letting him think i like him. but rite now i can barely look at him because i know how much i'm going to hurt him. this is killing me. how do i gather the courage to do it?How do i break up with him?
Be yourself relax and say. this is not really working out and I still wanna be friends because your a nice guyHow do i break up with him?
Try to put the shoe on the other foot. If you were on the other end of this situation how would you like to be told? Any way you look at it, he's going to be hurt, it won't be the first time nor the last. You need to speak to him in person too, no texting.... that's weak and more hurtful. Sometimes the anticipation of a situation, whatever it maybe, is worst then the actual event/situation itself. Just ask him to meet you somewhere, during the day, be nice when you see him and then just be out with it. Say something like, ';look there is no easy way for me to tell you this but my feelings for you have changed and I just don't feel a (romantic) connection anymore.....'; don't tell him that you've meet someone else. Just remember put the shoe on the other foot. Just do it and get it over with. You'll feel better...he'll be hurt and possibly pissed (normal) and you'll both move on.
Don't listen to Tom B, of course I'm sad she dumped you but still...
Don't feel pressured, it's not fair that this is the way things work, I know. I'm afraid you only know how to let him down easily. A real man should learn to know that it is ok to be friends, but that's hard to find in a guy. Girls and guys have it hard in relationships. One person always get hurt, one for hurting someone else, and the other for being hurt. But, maybe your lucky, and he'll be okay with it. Just, let him down easily, dont mention there's someone else. GOOD LUCK!! I'LL PRAY FOR YOU!
Just do it. Be honest, but don't tell him things that will only hurt him (aka, I'm into another guy)... it's on a need-to-know basis. Tell him you just don't feel the same way about him as you used to, but you still treasure his friendship and want to stay close. 7 months is not a long time, and you both have a lifetime to find other people.
Just be honest. Rehearse what you want to say, and then take him aside, somewhere private where you can be alone together. But make it quick. With feelings flying, the last thing either of you needs is for it to be a long, drawn-out thing.
my friend had this same problem. shes been going out with her boyfriend for a year, and her attraction with him just started to fade. and she also likes another guy a lot (i was hanging out with her and they obviously both liked eachother and were flirting). she tried being really mean to him so he would want to break up with her and maybe make it easier, but that is NOT what you should do. she ended up putting a note in his locker that she really likes him as a friend, but just a friend. and she also wants a break-up hug haha. hopefully i helped?
ive been in these kind of situations, idk y but i just waited until the girl broke it off, and she still likes me, she just broke up with me bc i would never talk to her. I would just tell him str8 up, you like him as a friend, and you Truly want to be his friend, and only as a friend. i no itll be akward around him, so just act like it never happened, and subtly try to hook him up with someone, but dont try to be a big matchmaker with it. if hes a sensitive kind of guy, hug him everytime you see him, itll make him feel better, i promise. (dont mind my privious questions, i was hacked)
First off, just accept that you can't be friends. You are about to put him through a lot of pain, so he's not really going to want to be friends after that, unless in some lame attempt to ';win you back';.
Honestly, just make a list of reasons you're dumping him. Go over the list for about a week. Get together at his place, and have your car so you can leave. Dump him fast and clean and get out of there.
What if the guy you like don;t like you that much? What if he playing you? Your current boyfriend, you need to let him down gentle by saying i am really sorry but our relationship isnt working for me anymore. In time, he will be ok again, Honestly is better than living a lie, decieving him and wasting time on both yours and his.
umm well its never easy but say the i feel like were growing apart and i dont think its working out thing,
and make sure u say '; i knoww u probably hate me right know but i hope we can still be freinds'; cus if u dont say the first 7 words he might just forget about u
and dont go out with the other guy for a little wile so he dosnt hate u for dumping him and going out with the other guy
k i hope i helped one way or another
now can u help me its only fair lol
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i dont know sorry you can try one last kiss and hug or something but i need more details. My only breakup was super super super easy. you can do what i managed to pull off. Lead on that your gonna break up with him but keep denying. If he was like my gf they will get mad and eventually try to seem bigger by bailing first. That way they broke up with you.
If the essence of the relationship is gone which is LOVE.
Then there's no reason left for you to stay together.
If you really can't ';break it to him gently'; tell in a letter.
Make it long. And be reasonable, tell the truth that you have
no feelings for him anymore.
You just have to do it.
I had a friend in the same situation.
She finally just did it, and felt better about it.
It took him a while to get over it, and stop acting immature about it all, and move on and be friends, but they are friends now. Good luck(:
Don't stay with him if you don't Have feelings. Just be HONEST and tell him why you are breaking up with him. Don't lie because it will only make thinks worse. Good luck with keeping your friendship and to start a new relationship.
Well since you barely look at him, he probably knows something is up. Just do it so both of you can move on. Yeah his heart will be broken, tears will probably come out and who knows, he may be thinking the same thing.
Just get it over with.
Lulling him into thinking that everything's fine is just going to make it worse. Don't listen to Mr. ';I have depression, feel sorry for me';.
tell him exactly how you feel, thats the only way.
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Tell him you don't feel the same as you used too. Its not healthy to pretend.
Invite me over and let him walk in on us, he'll know it's over then.
just txt him. i no it sounds bad but it is much easier and say there too much goin on in ur life rite now and send him another txt and say still friends?
hope i helped :l
well since you aint interested anymore jus tell him straight up...the more you wait the harder it will be
say this whole dateing thing is cool but u like being just friends more.look its all apart of life.
try to stay with him... mine dumped me and i've got serious depression now
thru email!!!!!!!!
just say this aint working out i think we should just be friends
