What can I say to break up with him?

Hi, I'm trying to dump my boyfriend, but I've never dumped someone before. He's kind of controlling, always trying to get me to tell him that I love him. And he tries to touch me in completely inappropriate places and says things like ';you're so f*cking sexy'; when he's drunk (he's 14 for Heaven's sake, I'm 13 and yes I'm a virgin). I've tried a few times to dump him but he keeps threatening to kill himself. And I don't know how to tell him its over, help?What can I say to break up with him?
Bring that matter to Adults or an older sibling or something


Saying that he will kill himself sounds serious!


yea and he needs to get dropped quick if hes fondling u like tht


or better yer DISAPPEAR change your # etc etc he sounds outta syncWhat can I say to break up with him?
just dump him and then ignore him cause if he gets drunk at age 14 then there is something wrong with him
Well he could be bluffing, but you should probably try talking to someone who really nkows him. Like a friend of his or something, or maybe like a parent?
wow!


i can't imagine myself in that situation but...


somehow i think he'll be fine if you say it straight up


';i think we need to take a break';
blame it on your parents, it'll work believe me.
tell him nicely and he only threatens you like that cause he knows you wont break up with him. but you have to do it anyway.
Just tell him the truth--tell him that you find his manner too controlling and it's a turn off for you...and that you do not appreciate his overly sexualized comments nor his attempts to touch you inappropriately. If he threatens to harm himself, you could talk to your guidance counselor at school and ask him or her to intervene with him because you are concerned about him--but also uncomfortable with having him as a boyfriend.... let the guidance counselor look into it and if he or shee sees there is a real concern--they get get the parents involved.





It's not your job to make sure he's got it altogether mentally...that's a job for his parents and professional psychotherapists/psychiatrists...





But do break up with him... he sounds like he is no good for you... and I applaud you for being smart enough to know that...
poor u its ok dont pay him no mind just say u dont want to be with him any more or if he doesnt change the way he ats to u its over.. if he is serious about killing himself tell ur parent[s] or his... **** look sweetie !! x
tell him he can't be so controlling and that its over.. if he threatens to do anything stupid, tell him he needs help and find him help
Maybe he just says that because u take him back each time he threatens to do that, but do b careful. If u stay with him then u are unhappy. U may not kill urself but he can make u miserable; almost like a partof u dies.
losers like him will end up in jail when they grow up


so i don't feel like paying taxes to keep him alive for food n water in jail


so let him kill himself





no j/k


tell a parent or call the cops
break up with him, and tell his parents, or a counselor about him threatening to kill himself, actually tell his parents about that first so that it wont be awkward for you, but if he is doin that you should DEFINATELY break up with him..
Say, I don't want to date you anymore. We can still be friends though.
make a point to not be available anytime he calls or comes over, surely your parents will help you avoid this guy


eventually he will get the picture


his threats are probably another of his 'controlling' ways which more than likely mean nothing


this is a loser you don't need in your life
Change your name and move 2 peru and OMG his is only 14 PERV wow
UR PHUCK STICK IS WAY 2 SMALL 4 THIS LOOSEY GOOSY
If he's threatening to kill himself I would try to get him some help. And it's been said that most people who threaten to kill themselves wont do it. He wants attention. Have a talk with him; not a fight, a talk.
hell if he kills himself its not your fault hes a fvckwit, play him 50 ways to leave your lover by paul simon
I THINK THE BEST WAY IS 2 AVOID HIM.


JUST DONT LET HIM COME NEAR U.
he wont kill himself, trust me. He;s just being silly and tying to go to extremes to stop you breaking up with him. H'es not right for you if he's not respecting you and your body, so just tell him that it's not working and that he needs to find a different girl. Keep telling him that he'll find another girl more willing than you, and it'll make him ok. Trust me, go for it! You just gotta stick out with the 'I'm gunna kill myself' thing, maybe not talk to him for a few weeks or something.
Just tell him that you're done with him. Don't listen to his suicidal talk. Just leave the bastard.
tell him straight up, you are not a toy he can play with! dont worry he most likely wont kill himself, he is just trying to get u to stay with him. if you are worried though, tell an adult. good luck!





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tell him over the phone so when he threatens to kill himself you can just hang up.
Well by reading this I can see you two are complitly different from each other..You are right to question yourself. The best way to do is simply to tell him the truth, never tell ';it's not your fault'; when it is or ';I met another guy'; when it's untrue.. Just talk to him when he's calm and just prepare him to face the truth.. a phrase like ';we need to talk'; can make him guess and face the truth.. You don't need to lie to dump him but you dont need to tell the entire truth either.. If he drinks at 14 I guess he could overreact and be violent. Just say that you two are too different...I hope it will help, but please you cannot stay with him, you seem so much better than him !
You need to tell his parents that he has problems. It doesn't sound like he will take it very easily.
With people that say those things, a majority will not do it. They say it so you will feel bad for them and stay with them. You need to dump him by being straight forward and when he says he is gonna kill himself, tell him he needs to get help and walk away. Good Luck but do it as soon as you can!
if he's threatening to kill himself its a move guys tend to make to keep what they want. They know how most girls tend to feel horrible and they'll do and say anything to guilt a girl into staying. Tell him that he isn't the boss of you and you simply can not take his controlling ways. Don't tell him that stupid ';it's not you, it's me'; bull, because it is him who is sending completely wrong signals into the relationship. Just tell him that you think it's best if you are apart and that you aren't taking no for an answer because you don't feel like this is a healthy relationship and it's not helping either of you get anywhere. Most of all anything he says like ';I'm going to kill myself,'; or ';Maybe i'll go get high'; or something like that is probably false. Tell him that you don't have time for his drama and you just want to live your life. he's a guy, he'll get over it, and you'll feel a whole lot better once he's gone.
just tell his parents when u break up with him that he is gonna try to commit suicide
It sounds like you're in an abusive relationship.


You will probably want to seek adult guidance for this.


He is showing many signs of emotional abuse in a relationship.


See if you have a domestic violence center you can call or talk to any adult you trust before this gets out of hand.





Good luck, best wishes!
Just tell him. If he brings up suicide just tell his parents that you tried to break up with him and he keeps talking about suicide.