How do you break up with a guy that loves you without making him cry?

My boyfriend is in love with me but I'm not in love with him and i love someone else but i just don't know how to tell him i love another guy and i want to be with him... and i don't want to make him cry how can i do that is there anyway i can?How do you break up with a guy that loves you without making him cry?
first off....your a slut





second, it sounds like your pretty good at messing stuff up so just do something to make him hate you, or just tell him your cheating and get it over with. its not like you care about him anyway so the bandaid way is the bestHow do you break up with a guy that loves you without making him cry?
Im kind of in the same situation.


I want to break up with my boyfriend but im afraid that it is going to crush him to death.


i keep putting it off and changing my mind about doing it because i just dont want to see the look that he is going to give me ( he has incredible eyes that can melt a person in a second)


But i cant put it off any longer and i am just going to tell him the truth and yes it is going to crush him but there is no way to do it so they dont get hurt.


Just be honest with him and if he crys its going to make you feel bad but its better to be honest with him then to lie and candy coat the break up.


I hope this helped a littel =]


Good Luck!! =]
there is nothing you can do tbh, it's going to be hard whatever you do. i made my ex cry once and it was HORRIBLE and i had to hang up the phone cos i couldn't stand listening to him hurt, i tried so hard not to upset him, didn't even think he'd cry, didn't think he was like that, thought he was one who blocks it all out but he never. your boyfriend will cry, but it's best to let it all out and then he'll settle with it all; lads deal with it a lot quicker than girls but just try not to rub it in his face that you're in love with someone else as that will make him feel like dying i can imagine! my ex slept with someone, then finished with me and got with her, telling me he had never loved me and he loves her? :| all cos i went to sleep early when he went out; it broke my heart, to know he'd done that! so just be careful; try and stay friends with him; nothing can hurt more than your heart being broken and it happens to everyone so take it easy on him cos when it happens to you, you'll see it HURTS A LOT.
You should tell him the truth. It is not fair to your bf, that he keeps loving you while you love someone else. Do whats right for both of you and explain to him the situation. I don't know your bf, so I don't know how he will react. I'm sure he may be a little hurt or angry etc buts its better for you to tell him, than for him to find out. Good luck
Just dont sound like your rejecting him. or hes not good enough. Just say, If we broke up and where still friends. The only difference would be we wasnt having sex. Everything else would be the same. But give him a chance to fight for you. Does this other guy love you. Or does that not matter. Is it only a One sided relationship your wanting. You can actually fall in love with anyone if your around them enough. You should learn how to work through problems, not run away. or you will repeat them with every guy. even this new one. its all the same, just a different face.
one time i dated this guy who loved me but i didn't feel the same i wasn't seeing no one else so i just sat him down one day and very nicely said i don't feel the way you do your a real nice guy blah blah i thought we understood each other i got up and walked away thinking he would leave he didn't he started sweeping the floor so then i got mad and said alot of things that 20 Years later i wish i hadn't and he cried and cried so whatever you do remember his feelings come first
Either way someone will get hurt :(


A friend of mine had a similar problem she just told him that her


parents didnt agree with it and they broke up (of course is still hurts just not as much) I personally didnt like the idea since the guy was a close friend of mine, but he got over her. I think the best thing to do is to talk to him somehow and tell him its not working out for you or something. It will hurt a lot if you tell him you want to be with another guy :(
I suggest that you dont tell him about the ';other guy'; this happens to many girls.. dont worry :P . When this happened to me.. i told him as very nicely.. i said ';im so sorry.. but i dont think this is going to work out.. Its not like u or i did anything.. i just dont want to be in a realationship right now,...'; if he crys... its alright. You did the best u could. I suggest that u dont go after that guy as soon as u breakup with him,, BUT make sure breaking up with him is a good move.. think about it..





hope that helped :D
1st make sure he doesn't see this question





i reckon you should just tell him. the best thing to say is its too weird... i dont know if it weird or not weird for you... but when i get dumped girls have said that to me twice, and it makes to depressed whatever after being dumped.





but if you say


';i cant see where this is going from here, it feels too weird for me, i'm really sorry... what do you think we should do?';





after that point he knows u dont love him the same way as he does... he will know its over...





i dunno, i hope this helps
Dont tell him abut the other guy. Not yet atleast. He'll feel inferior to men in general. Just be simple about it and tell him your not in love and you lost feelings for him. It sounds harsh, but theres no easy way to say it. Stay friends if you want to, but keep your distance for a few weeks. This really will help him get over, as much as he says it wont.
Tell him in a semi public place but be very careful that you do not give him to much time also write a letter explaining everything and that you have an interest in some one else(in the letter) so he knows the whole truth and you do not need to hear further accusations later on.
question you should ask yourself is why did you let it get sooo far?


but about you breakig up... just be honest and he might cry but you gta deal with it... if you have the guts to love sombdy els and lead another guy on then you should see the concnquses
If he loves you, then he'll let you go to make you happy, you get over people, he won't be hung up on you forever, but I don't think there's a way to get around the crying =(
If he really loves you then there is no way around the tears.


But you need to tell him, and apologize for leading him on; you owe him that much.
You've just got to be honest with him


don't lie to him cause if he finds out it will just make things worse


if he really loves you then he'll understand why you can't be together anymore
If he loves you enough, he'll want what's best for you, even it is leaving him. He might be crushed, but just get it over with.
Just say we have had a fun run and i dont think it is working out between you and him and maybe u can be together another time in ur life. now try too anwser my questions please
break up with him in song format
Chances are he's gonna cry no matter how you tell him because he really loves you. Being honest is better than lying to him. If you're not happy than with him let him know that things aren't gonna work out.
The cold hard truth will hurt-sorry to say but there is no good way of telling him, think about how you would feel being in his shoes.
no not really i mean he will get over it sooner or later but he will probly hate you for the rest of his life but also it depends on your age.
Sooner you tell him the sooner he will get over it
Tell him theres another guy and tell him the times come for guys to


go seperate ways
tell him that you will just be his friend and that you just want to be with someone else.
no, but i'd tell them soon as possible, so then they can start getting over you.
Guys are trained from birth not to cry, he'll be sad not cry.
Just ignore him , maybe he will get the hint.
well sorry one way or another you will make him cry
there is no way not to hurt him but you got to do it if you feel its not working out
LOL yeah right!!





So did the other guy get you pregnant?
cant be done. i feel bad for him...