we are both 22.
He just never goes out of his way to meet me/ buy me things/make me feel special.
Does he not care?
I know he cares he just never shows it.
I have told him how i feel already.
Should i break up with him?Is lack of attention, is it telling me to break up with him?
he's probably just too comfortable. it means he's secure enough with your relationship that he doesn't feel he needs to go out of the way for you, it doesn't mean he doesn't care about you.
if you already told him how you feel, and nothing has changed, and you'd like things to change, then break up with him. if you're happy with your relationship and would just like him to try a little harder, then talk to him about it some more and give him a chance to make you feel special.
answer mine?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>Is lack of attention, is it telling me to break up with him?
The fact that you're online asking others whether you should break up is a sign that you are thinking of it but for some reason, need validation. After six years, why are you still together? If you can't even think of reasons why, other than ';it's always been this way'; then maybe it's time to have a conversation with him. Why are you asking online, instead of asking your boyfriend?
I have girlfriends who say ';I know he cares he just never shows it'; and I always tell them they are making excuses for their boyfriends' behavior. Since when is being neglected ';okay'; in a relationship? For me, it's never okay.
You have been in this relationship since you were 16. You also said that ';he just never goes out of his way to meet me/buy me things/make me feel special.'; Have you had time in your life to find who YOU are, or are you looking for him to do that for you? Do you feel good about yourself outside the relationship? I am not trying to be insensitive - I know how long term relationships are, and things can get stale, especially when you are young and in them for a long time. With that said, do YOU go out of your way to make yourself feel special?
If he doesn't even meet you for a date which is what you want, you can talk to him about it. Are you afraid of the conversation with him, or afraid of changing your life? You're only 22.... make a change so that you are happy with your life. You still have the rest of it to live. And some guy out there is dying to buy you flowers and show you how special you are!!!!!
If you break up with him, that is up to you. Ask yourself this though, Do you want to spend another 6 years this way? If he doesn't respond to your needs after you talked to him about it, then do you think that he will change? Let him know how important this is to you, or let him know that you are tired of this and see if he makes any changes.
Are you getting anything out of the relationship? He sounds like he might just be bored/too comfortable with the relationship- are you?
Maybe do some special things for him, and see if he reciprocates? Just an idea! Mix things up! :)
Please answer mine! http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20091025195114AAqnlWx
my answer is no. often before a man asks for your hand he will do this. wait a bit longer, if nothing ask him and talk to him. IF still nothing then i guess you must move on. kinda sad though a 6 year relationship not working out.
After six years and showing no romantic feelings i would say yes break up with him, but in a romantic at heart.
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