How can I break up with him without hurting him too much?

Hi there. I've been dating this guy since September 08. I don't want to continue with this relationship because we fight more than we laugh and other reasons. He's not abusive, though. He lives with me because his step-dad is abusive. I don't want to keep him just because of that. I feel sorry for him but have to think of myself first. He doesn't want to break up. What can I do to break up with him without hurting him too much. I still want to be friends with him. He wants relationship counseling but I don't.How can I break up with him without hurting him too much?
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Get one of your friends to start ';talking'; to you right in front of him. And have her ask things like, ';Wow. he's sooooo cute! I so wann a date him'; and all of that good stuff. He might break up with you to take her.





If that doesn't work, be all cleangly. Like, always call him and ask him where he is, and whats he doing and he'll get annoyed and will DEFINATELY break up with you. And don't say you set that up or he won't want to be your friend.





and you can still be friends. problem solved.How can I break up with him without hurting him too much?
No break up is ever easy, but being honest is the best. You say you fight more often than smile, tell him that. Just tell him you care about him, but you are not happy in the relationship anymore and that you don't think that you see this working out in the long term but that you don't have any regrets getting to know him.
Don't do that! Wait till the next time you fight, and just tell him you can't take this anymore, and tell him to come back to you when he decides keeping a relationship is more important than winning a fight. Make sure you are on the right side of the fight though.
The tricky thing is him living with you. There are even legal issues, like if it's an apartment, whose name is on the lease? But there's no easy way to ask someone to move out. You just have to be firm and say that it just isn't working. Give him the time and space to move, as well as a reasonable deadline.





As far as the relationship goes, you say it all here pretty well. How he feels about it is not your responsibility. Being honest is.
There is no way to stop his hurt if he has feelings for you and wants to continue the relationship. You just have to be honest with him and tell him that it is over. If he gets all whiney and dramatic then be firm but do not insult.
Either way He is still goint to be really hurt.


But To make It better just tell him You ad him Will be friends.


And whenever he needs you , you will be threre for him No matter What.





Also that you love him But right now you have to focus on your life.
Sorry, doll, but you're gonna have to hurt him. Best thing is to be honest with him. If he's still in to you, there's a good chance that he won't be able to be your friend after you break up. Maybe after a while, but definitely not right away. The living situation will have to change. There's no way he'll be able to live with you and not be with you.





The day the woman I wanted to marry dumped me was the worst day of my life. I barely slept for 2 weeks and couldn't even try to sleep with the lights off. It hurt so bad I basically went numb. I thought I would die without her. But obviously I didn't. And now, as cliche as it may sound, I'm glad she dumped me when she did and didn't stick around in the relationship and come to resent me for making her unhappy. We eventually reestablished our friendship and still keep in touch more than 10 years later.





Do what you need to do for your own happiness. His will take care of itself.
You have to tell him straight out that you don't think you should be together anymore because you fight and argue and it doesn't feel like a relationship anymore. Suggest going on a break for a while, and living apart as living in such close circumstances could also add tension. Tell him you don't want relationship counselling because you want to be able to sort it out between yourselves as it is your business. If he cares about you he will consider your feelings too and hopefully respect your decision.


Hope your okay honey x